Saying that you don’t like is often difficult. Especially when we need to say to our friends. One of thing that lurks behind this faking is the fear of misinterpretation. We say what we meant to say, but they take what they take. Most oftentimes we mean no offense, but the scenario makes it worse. We say most politely that “ I’m grateful for your offer, but I don’t do it “ through a single NO. But sometimes they take it as regarding. They hear something like “ I don’t want your shit “. We can read it from their face all the frustration and indignation ,even when displaying fake smiles. If that’s the case, then we conclude that NO is getting us and our relationship ripped. What we don’t realize is that the after effect of it, such as we blaming them for the entire thing. Here things get even worse and may lead to the demise of the relationship. Once you become comfortable with saying “no”, then it becomes easy to sort out the unimportant from important. Your priorities become explicit. It is like an art, the art of saying no, to express your vision through a single tiny powerful word.
The ability to get out of yourself and dig into other people's lives can be useful when it comes to seduction. we must let ourselves subside and know the opposite person well. Know what they want, what they like, how they would react to different circumstances, and whey they like and dislike. During this process of minute scrutiny, never leave a clue that might lead to suspicion. Digest this information and keep tracking the person occasionally and ask them subtly about those private things to show you really care what they said. This sense of feeling that this person cares about us when used correctly can be a tool for seduction.
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