Saying that you don’t like is often difficult. Especially when we need to say to our friends. One of thing that lurks behind this faking is the fear of misinterpretation. We say what we meant to say, but they take what they take. Most oftentimes we mean no offense, but the scenario makes it worse. We say most politely that “ I’m grateful for your offer, but I don’t do it “ through a single NO. But sometimes they take it as regarding. They hear something like “ I don’t want your shit “. We can read it from their face all the frustration and indignation ,even when displaying fake smiles. If that’s the case, then we conclude that NO is getting us and our relationship ripped. What we don’t realize is that the after effect of it, such as we blaming them for the entire thing. Here things get even worse and may lead to the demise of the relationship. Once you become comfortable with saying “no”, then it becomes easy to sort out the unimportant from important. Your priorities become explicit. It is like an art, the art of saying no, to express your vision through a single tiny powerful word.
The mental cage that is created by the society from ever since we came across the life will get stronger with our inability to face the reality itself. Not the reality that is implied by the perception that is created by the experience we had from birth till now. The irony is that we were rarely conscious about what happened in the past and how it forged the inner self. But by the time we get to know what had happened to us, we might have already in a fucked up state. The more aged we are, the more we are fucked by the society. It might terrify a lot of people. And those who finds the truth often do the surface level solution shits and ends up being worser than before. The solution happens when we fix the deep root cause. It must be more psychological than surface scratch.
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