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Ask it before you lose it

"Ask and you shall receive" this is a pondering quote for many of us. Some how you are brought up to hear this. It's a universal thing. Wherever you are brought up, you're most likely to hear this. It's is transformed intany modern day theories and terms. Law of attraction is certainly one of it. There are some contrary opinion about the law of attraction and this universal stuff. Some people say this works like hell and other sway on " this is shot thing". Whatever that is, let that be. We are not taking any position. But isn't true that that you are most likely to get aid when you ask in person, instead of universe ? Of course you will. This is universal too. It's not that hard, what it requires is the courage, which by the way needs a diligent digging to find for some atleast. You won't get disappointed since the treasure was confirmed. Courage is a treasure. All of us want that. Charlie mackesy in his book The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse says that the hardest thing to do is asking for help. And he meant that. It might have seems easy when when there are favourite faces around. But that won't be the case any more. Most probably the need for help arises when there is no familiar face around. That's rude, you could say. Well there is an opportunity. And why we are so hesitant asking help ?. One thing fornsure is we are afraid of the result, the after effect. 

" What if I get rejected?"
" What if he say NO to my face,  or worse?"

        These are general misconceptions. I'm very careful with my words and again emphasizing it's a misconception. How often you turn down a request for help? About 99% of the time, you were there to help. Where that tiny 1% gone was an embodiment of perfection paralysis. The 1% is allocated for extreme situation.  Try asking for a date when she/he flunked in the final semester. This is extreme. And fortunately those of the charts moments are very rare. There is nothing to hesitate about. We are placing a kind request which no one likes to turn away. There is nothing wrong and nothing to shame about. Atleast now it make sense to place the request.

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